Coping with Life Changes | How to Manage Change

How to Cope with Change

I don’t know about you, but for me change is something that has never been easy. Learning how to adjust to something new is scary. Whether it’s something as small as changing your appearance, to something as big as moving to another state. Whatever the case may be, the transition always seems to be a struggle. And unfortunately … or fortunately (depending on how you look at it) change is unavoidable. So, how do we get through it?! Well I don’t have the secret answer that is going to solve your life’s challenges…. but I can give a few tips on coping with life changes.

      1. Give Yourself Time.

It’s so easy to get frustrated with yourself when you’re feeling down or upset about changes going on in your life. That’s why it’s so important to be patient with yourself and with whatever it is that you are going through. How will you be able to truly understand what’s going on in your head until you calm down, stop freaking out and breathe? You won’t! Go through the motions, and listen to yourself until you really understand what is happening, what you’re feeling, and why. 

       2. Trust. 

This is a big one and something that I personally struggle with. But once you learn to trust yourself, your body, and those around you, being able to embrace change becomes that much easier. Trust that everything is going to workout the way it is supposed to. I’m a firm believer in everything happening for a reason. And telling myself that over and over and over again… until I’m blue in the face, really helps. 

      3. Take care of yourself. 

Maybe you’re a selfless person and it’s in your nature to look after everyone else before taking care of yourself. BUT that doesn’t mean that you should always put yourself last! If you are not doing well, or you’re not in the right mind set – how in the world will you be able to help out those you care about most? It’s simple, you won’t. So what can you do to take care of yourself? Well that’s easy! Think about what you like to do and what makes you happy. Is it reading a book? Maybe getting a massage or mani-pedi? Whatever it is that you enjoy, make sure you do it. I always try to set aside at least 30 minutes of me time daily. Not only does this help me to keep my sanity, but it helps me take care of myself so I am able to be more present at work and there for others who may need it.

     4. Feel what you’re feeling.

If you are the type of person who runs away from your emotions then this one is a big one for you. I know from first hand experience that running away from your emotions is “the easy way out” and is not beneficial in the long run. In fact,if anything, it hinders your ability to cope with change. Running away also stunts your growth as a person and in your relationships. If you’re anything like me, that is… filled with a whirlwind of emotions, learn to let them out! Never try to hide what you’re feeling or who you are because of your own fears. Do not….seriously…. do not let fear run your life. You’re in control, remember that.

Being able to stay true to yourself during times of change is essential to any individual’s happiness. Never forget who you are, those you care about, and what’s inside your heart and soul. Change is hard, but with the right support system and mindset it doesn’t have to be. How do you cope with change? Share your tips in the comments below 🙂


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  • Hey Raquel,

    I completely agree! For me its all about giving myself time to adjust by doing everything I love. Even induldging in too much ice cream if I have to.

    • Raquel

      Hi Nadalie! That is so true, giving yourself time is so important. Not to mention, you can never go wrong with “too much” ice cream!!

    • Raquel Sosnovich

      Hi Nadalie,

      You’re exactly right! Time is everything. Plus… there’s no such thing as too much ice cream!

      Raquel

  • Patty Funfamliving

    Raquel, I like your reminder to let your emotions out. I try not to stress about change but to be honest, if it’s something hard for me to deal with I give myself the ok to feel the way I do, but also I try to figure out if what’s making me hesitant for the change is something I can fix. Ex. If someone rubs me the wrong way and I know I will have to be around this person frequently, I figure out how I’m going to accept them the way they are (the change), so I’m not stressing or annoyed. …this happened recently.

    • Raquel

      Hi Patty. This is so insightful and true. Being able to understand why you feel the way you do and how you can cope totally helps!

    • Raquel Sosnovich

      Hi Patty,

      I think you have some great insight here! It’s so important to reflect and really try and understand why you are feeling a certain way. This helps to not only learn more about yourself but teach you new ways to cope. Everything is a learning process 🙂

      Raquel

  • Hi Raquel,

    This is simply beautiful. So many don’t know how to cope, and thus, hate any change. I used to love change. However, the older I get, the less I like it. Learning how to deal and move on with the changes are key.

    Thanks for sharing this!

    B

    • Raquel

      Hi Bren. I’m glad you enjoyed my post. It’s funny because I’ve always been terrible with change even from a very young age. I’m hoping the older I get the easier it will become 🙂

    • Raquel Sosnovich

      Hi Bren,

      Thank you! It’s funny, I find I am the opposite. I’ve always had a hard time with change, even from a young age. I am hopeful that it will become easier the older I get. Being able to cope and following techniques definitely helps.

      Raquel

  • I believe a lot of people will try to skip or push away the feelings but it can be so necessary for healing or coping with change – thank you for the beautiful post!